by Phil Shinners
In his book,
The Great Good Place, Ray Oldenburg talks about characteristics of "third places" throughout history. The idea of the third place is that societies and people benefit greatly from (even need) these special places between work and home. These third places are "those gathering places where community is most alive and people are most themselves," says Oldenburg. Sounds like a cool description of a church to me.
Its not your typical church resource book, but as I read these pages, I found myself making connections between the thinking in them and some of what I'm trying to build in my student ministry.
It seems like part of the role of student pastor is to attempt to create places where students feel like they belong. By belong I guess I mean that they actually want to be there, that they call it their own, that they feel comfortable and connected there...
Here are some of the key characteristics Oldenburg found in third places around the world:
The Third Place is a LevelerOne of the things that I remember most about being involved in a student ministry (as a student) was that some of the normal rules of society didn't apply there. Students who typically "weren't supposed" to interact at school were found laughing together, freshman and seniors sang together, it was a powerful thing. Oldenburg notes that "Worldly status claims must be checked at the door in order that all within may be equals." I think students would love to come to our churches if we could create this.
Conversation is the Main Activity"Nothing more clearly indicates a third place than that the talk there is good; that it is lively, scintillating, colorful, and engaging." What, not programming!? The truth is, great conversations can be harder to create than great programs. How could we work to create this? What would it look like for conversations to be the main activity of our student gatherings?
The RegularsEvery third place has these "regulars" that you can count on seeing when you come. Its kind of weird to think about, but one of my most important roles as a youth pastor might be to just be there when we gather. Maybe this is one reason why it's hard to do student ministry without real consistency.
How have you seen these characteristics at your local Starbucks?
How have you seen them in your student gatherings?
How many places can you think of where teenagers can hang out together, and not be looked down upon?
Is your church one of them?
Post your responses/additions to these thoughts and questions. Further discussion will follow at my Point Leader breakout at the Shift 2008 Conference.
[Phil Shinners is the Junior High pastor at Mariners Church in Irvine, CA. He will be leading a Point Leader breakout entitled Mariners Church Student Ministries: An Inside Look
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